If You Don’t Set Boundaries, You’ll End Up Paying For It One Way or Another

Take it from someone who had to live it and learn from it

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If you’ve been a chronic people pleaser then you’re already a little behind on being the best version of yourself.

At 32, I’m only starting to catch up now but it’s been a long road and I’m still nowhere near the end when it comes to setting boundaries and being upfront.

There are so many benefits to be had if you start setting boundaries early on in your adult life.

For starters: You’ll be able to set apart when someone is being genuine or when they’re trying to take advantage of you.

Less people will also try to take advantage of you because they know you’re not an easy prey. Being someone who has never had the capability of saying no, I can’t stress how much this has held me back personally and professionally.

You’ll be respected far more than someone who doesn’t have boundaries

No one respects someone who doesn’t respect themselves. It’s really as simple as that.

You’ll have a healthier sense of self

This is probably the most important one for me. It was only when I started caring for myself that I really valued my time and effort. It helped me quit a job where I was miserable, where I truly felt taken advantage of.

You’ll start making time for the things you truly enjoy

When you don’t set boundaries with others, you can get roped into doing things you don’t want to because you don’t want to be mean or can’t say no.

You’ll attract people who value you

It isn’t to say that narcissists can’t come your way, but you definitely won’t be seen as an easier target.

These were all lessons I’ve learned in just starting to set boundaries. And at first it may be difficult but you’ll thank yourself if you learn this sooner rather than later.